Episode #32

How to Stay On Track with Your Goals

A body will remain at rest or in motion unless an external force acts upon it. Newton’s First law of motion. Similarly, if you want to stay on track with your goals, you’ll have to apply some force. Hi and welcome to another episode of Action-Ables. In this episode, let’s look at what you can do to stay on track with your goals. 

This episode is highly specific to those of you who are already pursuing a goal (no matter how big or small) it may be. For those of who, who are yet to start pursuing a goal, this will become beneficial when you do start your journey. So let’s explore this.

Here’s a scenario, you’ve finally started to pursue that goal, let’s say waking up earlier than usual and hitting the gym. It’s been painful to wake up early but you’ve managed to do it for a couple of days now. You’ve been forcing yourself to do it and every day it’s becoming increasingly difficult to stay on track with your goals.

Now replace this scenario with something that’s more relevant to you. Whether it’s trying to eat healthy, learning a new key skill at work, pursuing a hobby even. Any and all of these goals are difficult to pursue and at some point, it seems impossible to stay on track with these goals. 

So what can you do to stay on track with your goals?

Besides taking the relevant action steps, here are Two things, which I believe, will increase your chances on staying on track with your goals.

First, you have to understand and practice this fact that it’ll almost never feel like it’s easy to take action. I’ll say that again. It’ll almost never feel easy for you to do the things that are required to be done. So, stop expecting it to become easier!

I know it sounds a bit harsh and even scary but the sooner you accept this fact that what you want to achieve will always seem challenging. There’ll hardly be a time where you feel like ‘hey it’s so easy to get up and take action‘ Because no matter for how long you’re at it, you’ll never feel either kicked about taking action or find it easy to take action. The sooner you accept this, the better off you will be.

You’ll just have to get used to taking action, without waiting to ‘feel’ like taking action. Which is where setting personal routines is critical. When you schedule a time and place to take action and just do it, you don’t allow doubt to creep up on you!

The second thing, is to set your personal standards. You can call it self-image, self worth, a healthy ego or hey even an alter ego. Whatever, you want to name it, as long as it gets you fired up. Once you expect yourself to achieve what you want, and you refuse to settle, your actions will line up and support that image you have of yourself.

Without doing this however, you’ll always find yourself second guessing both your intent to achieve your goals and even your actions. So think about that for a second, if you’re constantly thinking about whether you should or shouldn’t do something to pursue your goals, you’re wasting both time and precious energy.

How about you do this exercise once and for all. If this goal you’re pursuing is important, you may want to be clear Why it means so much to you, what’s the course of action you have to take toward this goal and how it’ll make you feel to not take action and not reach your goals. These are questions worth asking early on in your journey.

Setting personal standards is key to being self aware and it helps you understand what you want. Setting personal standards also doesn’t just apply to pursuing your goals. It also helps you create the quality of life and relationships you want to have in your life. Only once you expect the best of yourself, can you expect yourself to take the best course of action and refuse to settle for anything other than your personal best!

So, there you have it, those are the two key things you can do when you want to stay on track with your goals.

If you liked this episode, don’t forget to like and share it with your friends. I’m here every Thursday to help you move toward your goals.

To connect with me on Social, my handle on Instagram is #padenslife

For personalised help with your goals, check out my company on www.upitaway.com

Remember, ‘What You Want Matters and It’s Up to You to Make It Happen’

Episode #31

How Long does it take to Make a Change?

One of my favourite quotes from Tony Robbins is “Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.”

I’ve often heard this sentence in some form of the other “I want to Change my habits or my negative beliefs but it’s so damn difficult” “I mean I’m certain I can change if it were easy.”

Hi and welcome to Action-Ables. In this episode we’re discussing how long it takes to make a change.

We’re almost halfway through January, how are those New Year resolutions coming along?, if you made any. If you’re on track, great going. If you’ve slipped and staying on track is looking difficult, then you may want to stick around for this.

Think about it, if there’s something you want to do but you haven’t done it already, why is that?

Think about the reasons. It can hardly be because you don’t know how to do it, because come on we live in the 21st century! And we all have a best friend called Google! So what else is holding you back?

When it comes to doing something, there are two important aspects to consider. One is ‘how’ to do something and the other is ‘why’ you want to do it. While Google can help you with the former. The latter is something you have to manage on your own.

This is where the challenge lies. You inherently know that in order for you to achieve something you’ll need to do certain things. Intellectually you understand that when you do these certain things in a systematic manner over a period of time you’re able to get the results you want.

The trouble, however, lies in doing these things, in other words taking action. Because the fact is it’s both physically and mentally exhausting to make changes in life.

So, here’s a slightly different way of looking at change that you may not have considered, at least no seriously. Think about this “How long does it take for you to make a change?”

With any goal that you’d like to achieve, have you considered how long it’ll take you before you feel like you’ve got things under your control?

Almost everyone thinks about how hard it’ll be to make changes yet seldom do people stop and consider how long before the required change happens.

The Answer: Change happens in an instant and not in how long it takes to get the results.

Let’s take an example: say, you want to finally change your career and do something that you love. You thought about doing this for years but now you actually go ahead and start that business you’ve always wanted. And it takes you 2-3 years to start seeing profits and you feel extremely happy with what you’re doing. How long would you say it took you to change?

If you said 2-3 years you’d be wrong. The answer is you changed the instant you decided to go after what you really wanted. Everything from that point on supported you in taking the required actions.

There’s of course a huge disclaimer to this: such a change can’t be confused with saying ‘oh I’m going to do XYZ’ and then chill in front of Netflix for several hours and not doing what it necessary.

The type of Change that happens in an instant, is the kind where you don’t even need to tell someone else about it. It’s where you’ll feel a strong, silent resilience that this is the moment you’ll look back to in a month, a year or even 10 years  later and you’ll know that this was when you changed for yourself and for the better!

So how does one go about making such a change?

Do this exercise:

  1. Think about what you want to achieve- your goal
  2. Instead of thinking about how hard it’ll be difficult to take action toward your goal, ask yourself  ‘could this be the moment you change?
  3. Do step no. 2 enough number of times and one of two things will happen, you’ll definitely start taking the required actions or you’ll certainly reevaluate what you’re tying to achieve.

So, that’s my time for today. If this episode helped you don’t forget to like and share it with your friends. I’m here every Thursday to help you with your goals.

If you want to connect with me, hit me up on Social. my handle on Instagram is #padenslife

For personalised help to reach your goals, check out my company on www.upitaway.com

Remember, ‘What You Want Matters and It’s Up to You to Make It Happen’